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Greg Brothers is an Adventist pastor in Oregon.

Wednesday, February 15, 2006

How do you teach an NC-17 lesson to a PG-13 class?

Sex, of course, is a wonderful gift that God gave us to strengthen the ties of intimacy in a marriage.

Yadda, yadda, yadda.

And no, I’m not going to say, “been there – done that.”

But the fact remains that most of your class members don’t believe that sex is evil, nasty, and bad.

Embarrassing, yes.

But not evil, nasty, and bad. Not anymore. Not if daytime TV is any guide.

In fact, any poll I’ve ever read suggests that devout Christians are more (ahem!) happy, active, and “satisfied” than the general public.

This week’s lesson, in other words, is probably one in which you could just declare victory and move on to another topic.

And the alternative, to be honest, doesn’t bear thinking about. I mean – really, what kind of practical applications would you draw from the Song of Solomon . . . practical applications that you don't discussing with a mixed audience? (And no, don’t even think about using PowerPoint!)

You see, sex is like money – nothing wrong with it, but you have to really, really trust somebody before you discuss it with them.

That’s why I’m going to suggest an “indirect” approach – one that goes back to last week’s lesson in Proverbs. That way, you can bring up most of the topics from this week’s lesson in a way won’t leave your class feeling embarrassed or confused . . . or even wondering what you've been up to lately.

Read Proverbs 5 and Proverbs 31:10-31.
These chapters introduce two very different women.
  • Sum up the character of each woman in a sentence or two (and if you like, you might describe the typical appearance of such a woman today). In what ways are these two women similar, and in what ways are they different? How do you account for their differences?

  • What do men find attractive in each type of woman . . . and what do they find frustrating? Is there a male counterpart for each of these two women – and if so, what would they be like? What do women find attractive in men such as this . . . and what do they find frustrating?

  • There’s an old saying about marriage that “kissing don’t last – but cooking do.” Is that all these chapters are saying about a relationship, or is there more? What does Proverbs 5 tell you about relationships that Proverbs 31 leaves out . . . and what does Proverbs 31 tell you about relationships that Proverbs 5 leaves out?


Blogger Dave said...

In my church the average age is well over 60. Sure glad I took on the youth class with our three members under 16. "Christian Decision Makink" that's a topic I can handle. Not sure what they did upstairs...

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